You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.
A lot of us have spent a good portion of our lives trying not to feel the difficult feelings that come up, myself included. There are so many things to distract us from our feelings and the wants and needs of our hearts. Television, addictive habits, and working too much are just a few of them. It’s so easy to find ways not to look deeply into ourselves and work on the hard emotional stuff.
I like to imagine what the world would be like if we were taught as children how to process our feelings in a healthy way. Where we could express ourselves and be received in a loving way, and be taught that all feelings are part of being human and that there are positive ways to deal with them.
The business of being human wasn’t designed to be an easy ride, in my opinion. It’s a learning experience filled with peaks and valleys, both of which need to be dealt with emotionally. Many of the “peaks”, the positive experiences, seem easy to deal with, but they, too, bring up a host of emotions that need to be worked through. Getting married is a wonderful experience, but with that comes new responsibilities, fears and change.
And the valleys always seem to trip us up. So many losses happen in our lives, and sometimes these don’t seem to get processed well. Loss of a friendship, of a job, and of course loss of a loved one are difficult to deal with in a society that doesn’t want to allow us the time to mourn fully so we can get back on our feet.
It is important that we feel the feelings and don’t repress them. Get them out in an appropriate way! If you need to, talk to a therapist or someone that will listen without judgment like a spiritual counselor.
Getting out a journal is my favorite way to express hard emotions. I can safely write out any hard feelings, especially anger, without risk of hurting someone or embarrassing myself. I have written many letters to God expressing my deepest feelings of loss, anger and regret.
Our hearts are meant to feel deeply, and that means all of the feelings. When you do this, you’ll be able to be more present in the moment, and life just gets sweeter.